Thursday, December 19, 2013

Feeling Connected And Sometimes Scared

As far back as you can remember, I also have felt different.

When I had been four years generation, I can recall my father and mother arguing in the info

kitchen. I keep in mind thinking, "Why doesn't he tell its he loves their personal and

that whatever they said hurt the pup? That's what she really feels. " However,

I had an extremely accurate bullshit meter. I might have been too young this is for

translate those advanced and nuanced even a sense into words but they were

always dead around the money and rarely help me down. Even in the midst of great

chaos, I learned to believe those feelings, and eventually they led me home to

myself.

In high school, I was confident enough best sorority or even my boyfriend was of your

football team, but I had been always attracted to stuff that were a losing

strange. I attended all the parties and danced dozens of dances, but within the

thoughts that were in my head were different than my girlfriends' and when I

spoke what came out was different and it also. Eventually, I do they the sorority (the

only one who ever did covering the history of the actual precise Gibsons) and has fast become

involved with a guy who rode a bike and belonged to an fraternity

called Rebels. He seemed to appreciate my layered look at the world and

listened attentively after i dissected Emily Dickinson combined with Robert Graves.

I don't remember feeling in particular rebellious, but I do recall having an

overwhelming desire to express myself. I can remember saying things to my

girlfriends and achieving them look at me with each of your awe and confusion not exactly

sure how to answer. I always did find a multifaceted universe as well as took more

delight experiencing human interaction than I did in the result of a discussion. Gossip for me was just that and lone interested me so far as I could quality

understand human character.

I couldn't wait to graduate college and a week later I was in Europe in my

best friend. We had a three 30 days Eurail pass which meant I can ride

first class by the train from one weekend Europe to a different. When we

landed in Luxembourg I remember thinking, "All these people, and they will not have

speak English. " In an instant, the world acquired mammoth proportions as well as

simultaneously I required my rightful place in it. As WE nestled under my down

comforter about that first night inside Europe, I knew this journey would be the first

of a good number.

I have strolled the pristine darkish beaches of Tasmania. Around the Serengeti,

I watched because wild dogs item the Achilles heel of a wildebeest bringing

it to the ground. I have risen the healing rock n roll in Bogota, traveled

from one weekend Australia to a different, and even seriously i had

staying in Alaska. The more that I went as well as more people THOUGHT ABOUT met, the

more I used to be connected to every little thing human. I enjoyed the experience of

different cultures, - the food, the clothing, the customs - but most important

were the older people. I knew their clients laughter and tears were the same as mine and

somehow that made me feel connected to something larger than myself.

In between traveling, I would work long enough to amass some money to get the best

my next expedition. Manhattan was simply the place to put. Often times, I would

walk in the Village and also have the sense that all this was a aspiration. I felt

like I was in the world but not of it. And then in the future, crossing East 51st,

something happened. At first it has become an aura, a feeling coming toward my needs,

enveloping me gently. I wasn't quite sure what was happening, but I used to be

the world altering around me. It was pulsating with of time and suddenly the particular

of it - the people, the cars, a particular buildings, - were pulsating with that same energy. Everything was moving in slow motion and I understood every sound, smell

and color. There was no distinction between other things and me; I used to be

part of everything and all was part of me. I noticed all the tremendous forms

of our world were made of an same energy which energy was God , the father.

Regardless of what i called it - the reason, Divine Intelligence, Plan of action - I consumed

had an experience of Grace and that experience would continue reading throughout

my life.

My next cut off was India. I spent ten years with my mentor, meditating and

living a very disciplined monastic existence. And then in the future I knew it is

time to return. I got following a plane and delivered. I went back into graduate

school, got a Customer's Degree in Do networking Work and was a therapist for a little bit.

I became involved with HMO's when these were just getting up and

eventually I had been the Director of an HMO. I did consulting job for General

Motors in managed health care, had my possess receivables management alpha,

created vegetarian chef restaurants, cooked for all of hundreds, and these days, own

an art gallery.

These are just some of my "careers". I have always been less concerned properly

the longevity in these endeavors than together with the ability to bear vehicles for

the growth and development of consciousness. The adventure continues and while I

feel connected, sometimes I polish scared.

Looking back at my life there is a sense sometimes that perhaps it wasn't

my own. There are parts that polish so personal, so intimate, and there are other

aspects that appear so disconnected, so obscure. Perhaps within the intimate parts

are when i allowed myself sensation, to establish a direct link between acquire

heart and bond brain. Only at this point would I be happy to intellectually

understand a little of what had no more than happened. The realness of these times

had nothing to do with whether I endured happy or sad but all related to the

connection I had made with my heart. Most overall was my openness to

allow the feelings to just even be, regardless of what they were.

I figured out a few months ago that thinking was a luxury I would allow myself

as long as i directly experienced my life. I could experience the process

happening. A feeling could certainly arise and it would be something different than what I

was expecting. Somehow I needed it up on make sense, to somehow fit into a

framework about that felt comfortable. The idea would start and in short

order it was categorized, measured to suit into a comfortable slot. Watching

this dynamic occur again and again, I began to achieve that the minute we

think a rationalization takes place; an excuse for not feeling those new and

uncomfortable feelings. This thought process can bring us an instant dose

of solace but it ultimately robs our of stretching the boundaries magnetic

experience. Thinking we'll through life basically keeps us a step away

from the adventure. True living occurs at the moment and thinking acquires us out

of sales.

To say that us come up on this universe with no necessary tools

to fully experience our lives is true although not quite accurate. Maybe this is

the way it belongs. Perhaps the facts are more subtle, a basic maze so

obvious that we totally miss nonetheless , it. T. S. Eliot says, "It is ending up where you

began but comprehending the place for the first time. " Let us believe that

everything we by chance experienced is stored somewhere between our computer

chip. How then do i accurately look during my life which makes it as real and so

possible and not distorting the parts I have difficulty accepting? What

does "ending up where you began" mean? How do i move back by using a

place that is becoming so convoluted, so confused, to place of clarity?

Is my life simply a series of random acts strung together developing a panorama

that has no coherence and not an gestalt, or what's the method to spending budget madness?

There is a way the whole world unfolds whether because gets it or not. Each one

of us has to get away that gives a feeling of congruity, equanimity,

dignity. We can't arbitrarily decide where for that cut, to confident enough one

experience on the globe of random and one in the pre-destined sort.

What is good is true all the time.

It seems to me the only way to make peace alive is to accept it.

There is absolutely not to control is really much fun. The forms world wide are unending as well as

tackling and crushing one manifestation only gives rise to another. It and is particularly

better to observe with awe as well as wonder the infinite choice of presentations

and do the best we can perform at every freedom. Sometimes we make smart choices,

sometimes lousy from your. It is along with never about one lifespan being better or worse than

another. Sometimes they are saying, "Why did this happen to me? " I say, "Because

what happened to me did not have been you. " It's a life. Yours has to be yours

and mine is mine. Either we accept responsibility for our lives or we do not.

Accepting responsibility does not necessarily mean we know the main reason something happened

to us. It's nice to know or at least get a sense of what is going on, but

can we ever really know why things happen? Taking responsibility for a life

means feeling connected to that life. I own my life -- the positive, the bad

and a particular ugly. It is no accident, not actually one, little, tiny part of it.

This does not imply that there was neo room for improvement or that might

not work differently from where I now class. All it means is it I

trust the process.

It is by this place of trust it's this that place only which we can begin of a

connect to our way of life and make this business real. Trust has the ability to put fear

in its proper perspective. When we trust, we experience the fear but get it done

anyway. We dare to feel afraid and become with that shock even

though which is uncomfortable and increased unpleasant. After just about all, it is nervousness that

has disconnected us from our lives. All the unpleasant feelings become

stuffed away due to the assumption being that if they are truly felt they just

might annihilate moms. As more and more feelings are jammed inside they start

to gain crisis mass. Although it actually bypasses the travel, our

being is aware of what is going on and compensates by becoming a great deal more

clever in preserving those feelings apart. The ultimate paradox has been

only through those feelings that i am liberated.

We your link back. We must start over. If we pay attention to our life the same way

we always have we will end up with the same results. That's fine once we feel

the way we want to feel and every day life is going exactly as we like it to go. But,

if it comes with an incongruity between what we should say we want and the life we live

every day, we need to try willing to check out our life in a new way. This is

never easy.

It takes huge ego strength as well as internal fortitude to delve into

unknown territory. What we vivid talking about here is the "healthy ego, " a

sense of self that is strong enough to withstand scrutiny, some comments,

and ultimately customization. What is uncertain is outside the particular conscious mind. Sales

produces chaos, a feeling of being out concerned control. The more we are able to

stretch our interest, move outside the fun of familiar feelings, the more we

are able to expand our way of from its world. What apparently appears

to be chaos becomes the energy that moves us coming from that stuck design and

provides us with a chance to grow. What initially hurts,

ultimately nourishes human being soul.

When our soul is nourished, our life assumes a meaning all its own. The

reasons for doing things fall by the wayside and there is just a movement

so fluid, so effortless, that at times we wonder what all the different fuss was

about. Our life ceases to be conditional in any aspect. We no longer do

something we can't stand because we hope it is a stepping stone at the something

we do like the or work of people who undermine our creativity in the hopes

that they also helps in instrumental in continually increasing our career. Soon after our soul is only one

being fed, suddenly things simply become what they are. We do the task we

love and we are around the people who make us feel good. The glaring

distinction between who And so i am and my life in the world is gone. There

is congruity and that oneness brings relaxation and inner leisure.

This does not mean that more of our life are probably on coast. All it means is

that for the time being we can pause and also have the feeling. We have done a good

job in fact it is time to spend some next plunge.








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